- Register for a yoga class
So I did it.
I finally registered for a Yin Yoga class per the short term/recent recommendation of my informal life coach and friend, Melisse. Although I have a feeling that my long term/less recent recommendation from my friend, Wayne, who has been pushing his friggin drum circle on me for three years would disagree and it was him who inspired me.
What really inspired me? The ethos behind yin yoga: a slow-paced style of yoga with postures, or asanas, that are held for longer periods of time—for beginners, it may range from 45 seconds to two minutes; more advanced practitioners may stay in one asana for five minutes or more. I need to find a zone of peace and solitude that isn’t dependent on doing things and constantly moving – an internal issue (?) I have suffered from since I was a child.
I have a problem with relaxing, I don’t get a lot of downtime and I don’t know what to do with myself when I do get some of that time to myself. Again, these are old habits that are hard to kill – I recently went through a promotion and am advancing my career and through my past partner, I learned and now understand the importance of relaxing. It’s underrated and, in my opinion, sometimes overrated at the same time. Why relax? There’s so much to do and so much to see, why can’t I do it all?
- Money – it’s expensive taking part of happy hours with coworkers, seeing shows with friends (supporting friends in shows), and taking time off from work (especially when it was/I was overtime eligible)
- Time – I think I have plenty of time to myself and my friends, and over the past year for my partner, but I really didn’t – I had to prioritize and disappoint family and friends at various points
- Mentality – realizing how important it is to myself, my friends and family that we remember one another and spend time with one another cherishing each other.
Money, time, and mentality. I’d love to tell you how easy one was over the other and then tell you how I overcame the hurdle of the hardest but it’s all hard. Mentality had to come first, how did I tackle it? Exercising and actively challenging myself to do it daily. Daily. I can’t take a day off from having a day off. I still get to plan, which is one of the reason I love my friends – they aren’t for doing things willy nilly, but even when they are, I have to flex my skills to be willy nilly.
I attended a yoga class after buying a three newcomer pass to a wellness studio so I have to go at least two more times (three visits for $30, first time I found a reasonable price for new attendees). I am going on a weekend vacation with my girlfriends next weekend. I had gone out for drinks last minute after a gym appointment with another set of girl friends after the read through this past Monday. I scheduled a massage and facial for this past weekend – one of my favorite relaxation things to do, especially the 30 minute peppermint scalp massage (worth the cost, trust me). I am seeing Hello Dolly! with my mom in the upcoming weeks (post to come) and – also with my mom – going to the Netherlands in September.
What else can I do? I’ll tell you the final step because it’s most important and it’s something I still need to actively work on internally.
4. Don’t put too much pressure on myself and what I have to do next to relax.
Take it as it comes and let it happen naturally, it’s going to take practice and take time getting into a new mentality but I’m working on it and that’s all I can do for right now. Soon it’ll be as simple as breathing especially with the newfound (love and) flexibility of my current (hopefully forever) job role, a great support system of my friends and family, and the internal drive in myself to be a better person. One way to be a better person is to acknowledge when and what I need to do for myself before putting myself out into the world.
This new mentality is only going to happen over night but it’s an important struggle that’s only going to enhance my creative capabilities. Beyond exposing myself to new experiences and alternative fun (alternative to me – probably normal to other people), I am exposing myself to new avenues of thought and perspective that I can put back onto stage for my actors. I need to be a part of as many experiences as I can get, within reason, and self examination to understand the various roles and character types I will be directing in the future.
‘Til next time.