Divas and divas… there is a difference.
I know two Divas. And, I know two divas.
I think one of the biggest differences between the two iva‘s is how they approach relationships with a productions staff and their fellow cast mates. Often, they are observed as being semi two-faced; presenting one pleasant demeanor to the director and lead players, but then presenting an incredulous persona. It’s often not a pleasurable experience. Maybe it’s not only just unpleasurable for the staff and to give the benefit of the doubt to the diva, they might also not enjoy working with the staff either.
What if the staff are horrible toady’s without an independent thought to offer? I don’t believe this to be my case but who knows? I could be a toady.
It’s really hard to judge how a person acts and presents themselves without having a full work up of their life story, and–is it really any of our business? We can all make things difficult for others at some point, but if it’s continuous behavior? That’s when it bothers me. And, it does become the business of the collective when they are creating a negative environment for you, they are most likely creating the same environment for others. Maybe take them aside and discuss how you can best come to an agreement and move forward together versus at odds.
diva’s can simultaneously make and break a show (that d was purposefully lower case, I hope you caught on the distinction I am making). They will put on a performance of a life time and they will entertain your mutual audience–they might even fool. You could end up believing they’re your friend when on/near stage and 180 back to treating you like garbage off stage.
What are you supposed to do then? Let them continue on their wicked, deplorable way? No, of course not. Address your concerns with the other staff and cast privately, maybe in a 1:1 to see if you have any allies in the production. Don’t forget to stand up for yourself and your friends. Keep your friends close and help them when they need you. Don’t confront or press the diva, avoid the potential pitfall to be seen as the person at fault–back up, breath, and walk away.
It’s important to remember that not everything and everyone is a pleasant experience, protect yourself and understand that some persons are not worth the strain and effort. Enjoy your time on stage, earn the right to be a Diva and avoid becoming a diva. The staff and your peers deserve your respect and the time of day. Not every one will get that, but this might be the best piece of advice I can provide you, my lovely readers.
‘Til next time.